tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9137044632467935627.post4816292082600515392..comments2023-03-13T22:51:22.822+09:00Comments on Rehearsal Times Over: Learning to Say Goodbyecoarse gold girlhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06004484019542589905noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9137044632467935627.post-84116704179833969232010-04-30T17:45:55.325+09:002010-04-30T17:45:55.325+09:00Trijbits,
Sorry to hear about your cat. How'...Trijbits,<br /><br />Sorry to hear about your cat. How's your Japanese? I think all you can do is go to the vet and express your appreciation for all that they have done but that it is too heartbreaking to make your cat continue to suffer. If they don't respond to that then you can bluntly say that you don't have the funds to go on and letting her starve to death at home is inhumane, can't they do something to help her passing be painless? If your Japanese isn't up to it, you might look for a friend to go in and translate for you. <br /><br />In our case, there was one time when the vet looked very uneasy and mentioned that if we couldn't afford to continue the treatments, . . . well then. . . <br /><br />Of course, she followed up with, "but of course you don't want to kill your childrens' beloved pet, do you?" <br /><br />I do know people here in Japan who have been absolutely firm with vets and insisted on euthanasia--they were able to get pets put down. Just don't expect the vet to help you much emotionally, I guess. <br /><br />So sorry to hear that you are losing your beloved cat. It was terrible to lose Melon, but she was not getting better and apparently, couldn't have; so her death was a relief, but one of the saddest I have ever endured. <br /><br />CCGcoarse gold girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06004484019542589905noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9137044632467935627.post-78114763435370757672010-04-30T15:56:05.271+09:002010-04-30T15:56:05.271+09:00CGG, I'm so sorry about Melon. Kudos to you an...CGG, I'm so sorry about Melon. Kudos to you and your husband for handing a sad, difficult situation with so much poise and diplomacy.<br /><br />I'm an American living in Nara and I just found your blog when searching for information for our cat. She is old (but not extremely so) and is ill. Over the past few months she has undergone numerous tests and treatments. From what I understand, the most likely cause is lymphoma, for which there is no cure, and yet the vet still brings up the option of surgery. I would gladly pay the expense of more tests and surgery if I believed--or if the vet could even once reassure me--that there was a chance for my beloved pet to regain her appetite and live without discomfort.<br /><br />A friend told me that Japanese vets don't euthanize, and now that I am facing the same situation and searching for information, it appears that she was correct. Sadly, it seems that the only other option available is to let my cat slowly starve to death at home. I really like the excellent treatment that the team of vets at the clinic has given her, but am in a quandary over how to broach the subject with them....Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07082467826420700071noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9137044632467935627.post-64010242143188714702010-02-11T01:22:07.353+09:002010-02-11T01:22:07.353+09:00Okay, congratulations to me for finally finding yo...Okay, congratulations to me for finally finding you. What the heck took me so long? Anyway, I know your writing is usually more on the funny side of life, but this entry was truly moving. I'm glad your kids were able to learn from this experience, and what your husband said about the importance of learning how to say good bye was great...however, they probably will still pick one or two bad boyfriends along the way. Who doesn't, right?Mandehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15385185240896224382noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9137044632467935627.post-89561450815430182742010-01-25T23:31:12.218+09:002010-01-25T23:31:12.218+09:00I had my beloved best friend - my bull terrier of ...I had my beloved best friend - my bull terrier of 13 years - euthanized when she was in pain and blind. And then we had a funeral, she was cremated and she now has pride of place on the mantle piece in a beautiful wooden box with a gold plate. There is also her medals and photo's of her.<br /><br />My husband thinks like you that a dog is a dog, it's just a pet. But I always treated Giz as a human, and what she really was, is a master, because she came to teach me how to love, and how to live, and what a real friendship is like.<br /><br />Animals "pets", are here for a purpose I have learnt, they teach us things that we need to know. <br /><br />They have feelings and are very connected to all worlds. They are way smarter than most people give them credit for. <br /><br />Sorry for the death of melon. It's really great that your children had such a beautiful friendship with her and got to experience loving another beautiful soul.Kellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11634221078922326881noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9137044632467935627.post-49096874592831840782010-01-24T13:36:14.138+09:002010-01-24T13:36:14.138+09:00Colin,
I totally agree with you. I worked at a ve...Colin,<br />I totally agree with you. I worked at a vets when I was in highschool, and while having to euthanize a pet is heart breaking--watching an animal in pain and suffering is as well. I know, that it would have been kinder to Melon to have her put down as soon as the test results showed no hope. Timing was tricky though--holiday season, ouch. Also our eldest daughter was waiting on test results to see if she would get into the junior high she was desparate to get into. And, to be honest, we thought that her chances weren't so good. Melon was primarily her cat, and having her put down in the midst of it all--I let the vet have her way and we did the treatments. for a week. <br />I have been in people's home who had dogs that were arthritic (basically crippled), incontinent, and blind. Why they continue to let an animal live in those conditions. . .I definitely would fight until I found a vet who would agree to euthanize.<br /><br />Lauracoarse gold girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06004484019542589905noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9137044632467935627.post-11719065963345206612010-01-22T22:16:44.223+09:002010-01-22T22:16:44.223+09:00Gosh, I've had a few friends in Nara and Osaka...Gosh, I've had a few friends in Nara and Osaka who have gone through this too.I'm sorry for your loss, but I have mixed feelings about the Japanese vets' attitude toward euthanasia. Is it natural to keep feeding (expensive for the owner, lucrative for the vet) medicine to a sick, suffering old animal who has no hope of recovery? In a "natural" situation, animals (especially dogs) naturally just wander off into the woods, to die alone – they know whan it's time. I've noticed that the people who tell me, "I can't put my cat to sleep – I'm a Buddhist!" are never vegetarians. Since when do cows and chickens not factor in the Buddhist pantheon? I've been gutted when old family pets have died, but it bothers me even more when I see a poor, suffering, embarrassed-looking old pet, who wants nothing more than to be put out of its misery. When I see such things, I get depressed for days.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13916973143311287525noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9137044632467935627.post-63071978390601154602010-01-19T01:34:54.051+09:002010-01-19T01:34:54.051+09:00A pet funeral. I honestly wish that I had been ab...A pet funeral. I honestly wish that I had been able to have one for my dog when I had to put her to sleep many years ago. I still feel her loss. <br /><br />I like what your husband said about the emptiness of loss, it is very poetic and probably very true.<br /><br />Just saying hi as well....Helenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00476943539943172099noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9137044632467935627.post-16670963100803991972010-01-13T22:46:39.384+09:002010-01-13T22:46:39.384+09:00Sorry to hear about the loss of Melon. :-(
I am g...Sorry to hear about the loss of Melon. :-( <br />I am glad you have started blogging again, I have missed your writing.Mhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07753274966052707888noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9137044632467935627.post-21395189754633484942010-01-10T05:30:00.356+09:002010-01-10T05:30:00.356+09:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9137044632467935627.post-55134178428320270052010-01-09T13:31:47.252+09:002010-01-09T13:31:47.252+09:00Hi There I'd love to congratulate you for suc...Hi There I'd love to congratulate you for such a terrific quality site! <br />Just thought this would be a perfect way to make my first post!<br /><br />Sincerely,<br />Hilary Driscoll<br />if you're ever bored check out my site!<br />[url=http://www.partyopedia.com/articles/caillou-party-supplies.html]caillou Party Supplies[/url].Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9137044632467935627.post-64725982679376779542010-01-07T02:45:49.579+09:002010-01-07T02:45:49.579+09:00I'm sorry to read about the loss of your cat, ...I'm sorry to read about the loss of your cat, it sounds quite difficult. We had to put a cat to sleep a few years ago due to a blood clot in her back leg, I would have found it very hard to let her die naturally. I think Masa sounds very wise in his decisions to help the girls deal with their loss.Donnahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11879927963858160523noreply@blogger.com