tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9137044632467935627.post2469076944473817213..comments2023-03-13T22:51:22.822+09:00Comments on Rehearsal Times Over: Writer's Therapy or The Workaholic's Wifecoarse gold girlhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06004484019542589905noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9137044632467935627.post-79706222525572642082009-12-31T06:37:57.083+09:002009-12-31T06:37:57.083+09:00Hi!!! rehearsaltimesover.blogspot.com is one of th...Hi!!! rehearsaltimesover.blogspot.com is one of the most outstanding informational websites of its kind. I enjoy reading it every day. All the best.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9137044632467935627.post-49472867193711108842008-11-23T23:20:00.000+09:002008-11-23T23:20:00.000+09:00Anonymous,((Hugs)). What you are going through is...Anonymous,<BR/><BR/>((Hugs)). What you are going through is hard. If I hadn't of had children in the picture, I am sure that I would have left. Why? Because honestly, it seems like the only way to get through to them. Others advised me to go. Even with the kids. They said that it might finally get through to him. I'll never know not having gone down that road. <BR/><BR/>These days, he comes home some weeks regularly before 10 pm. Other weeks, he is back on the 9 a.m. till past 1 a.m. track. Although lately, on those nights, he does come home for dinner with me and the kids, helps the kids with their homework and then goes BACK into work. But compared to a year ago--much better. <BR/><BR/>I have found that using anger to express my hurt and disallusion over living with a workaholic got me absolutely no where--but did put my marriage at high risk. <BR/><BR/>So, I try to compromise now. If he comes home late, I don't greet him with rage. I might go to bed with the kids and sleep through the night if I am tired. I usually wake up when he comes in though, and then I go and talk a bit with him, make sure he eats something, then I go back to bed. <BR/><BR/>And he continues to try to get home earlier and he has stopped working on the weekends. So weekends are honestly family time now. <BR/><BR/>I don't know your situation, our your history with your workaholic or your present with him. But if you don't have kids in the picture, then you do have more options. I hope you can find a way to act that helps you. <BR/>And even though I am no hugger (see "Hug Therapy") I would give you a big hug, were we to meet. Empathy definitely disolves my anti hugging barriers. <BR/>Lauracoarse gold girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06004484019542589905noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9137044632467935627.post-39050502218215995372008-11-22T03:22:00.000+09:002008-11-22T03:22:00.000+09:00hey there,i know this has been written a long time...hey there,<BR/>i know this has been written a long time ago, but i just found it today. i wonder if you still keep going. i am about to just let go of everything and go back to my home country. i have no kids, but a little bit of dignity and self esteem left. so i feel i should pack both up and run as long as i can. i am feeling so numb... and there is nothing i can do to make him realise he is ruining himself, us, and lastly, me.<BR/>how can i make him realise?? i am very, very desperate.<BR/>big hugs!<BR/>a-mAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9137044632467935627.post-15330990650452078082008-10-17T09:30:00.000+09:002008-10-17T09:30:00.000+09:00I don't have time to read ALL of your bloggings ri...I don't have time to read ALL of your bloggings right now but I really, REALLY want to continue. I can't say I know what you're feeling. I can't say I understand. I can only read and learn and hopefully take heart that I'm not the only one who feels like screaming and crying and stomping around calling people worms and worse.<BR/><BR/>Thank you so much for your blogs. I appreciate you!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9137044632467935627.post-39614983698111990882008-08-28T00:29:00.000+09:002008-08-28T00:29:00.000+09:00Wow!!! Hello Laura. I do not know your present sit...Wow!!! Hello Laura. I do not know your present situation. I went in search of blogs/articles about women with workaholic husbands and yours was the first one I found and read. (I'm currently dating one and considering marriage, but furious with his work right now.) It has been over a year now since you wrote this entry, but I was deeply moved by all of it. I'm sure your life is a bit different by now. Even so, your story is gripping. Thank you for sharing it with the world. I do pray you have found rest from this tiresome draining and life-sapping way of life. I will be an avid reader from here on out. Here's a hug from one Mom of two girls to another. You're a champion in my eyes.<BR/>My blog is called Happy Feet. Look me up sometime.Emhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15041263067243073742noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9137044632467935627.post-7985023865118351032007-07-21T09:36:00.000+09:002007-07-21T09:36:00.000+09:00Laura, I'm just at a loss for words. I read this p...Laura, I'm just at a loss for words. I read this post yesterday and it stuck with me all day long. I just wanted to say, I respect you so much! You are one heck of a fabulous mother. Dancing with your children to Shakira. Reading them their fav book "Pakun", between piano lessons and all. You have me rooting for you over here! And I'm listening! Your girls will have the best most wonderful memories of you when they get older! : )<BR/><BR/>And the Japanese work ethic in Japan, is really horrible isn't it?<BR/><BR/>PS, I have looked for your email address on your blog since month's ago. I wanted to ask you if you needed something from Guam in April and again 2 weeks ago. I also wanted to ask you if you wanted me to burn you a CD. I had no idea how to email you, so I am just saying it here! Ha ha ha.Ginahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02427544303742999100noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9137044632467935627.post-87026978852348735262007-07-19T10:13:00.000+09:002007-07-19T10:13:00.000+09:00Dear Laura,I never found anything in written words...Dear Laura,<BR/>I never found anything in written words which could describe as precisely my own situation than your wonderful posting!! You are great, really! How did you get this unbelievable clear sight! How delicate you are, how much details you recognize!<BR/>Admmiring you....<BR/>Gabriele in ChigasakiAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9137044632467935627.post-71098875582111226912007-07-19T00:45:00.000+09:002007-07-19T00:45:00.000+09:00I hated the first job my husband had after we move...I hated the first job my husband had after we moved to Japan. He worked such long hours but at least he hated it. I can't imagine if he'd been OK with it. We always knew that he was busy but after he quit, it really hit him that he didn't know our second daughter who had been born and reached her second birthday by that time. She was a complete mystery to him. With the job he has now, he works from home half the time and I cannot imagine how I would parent four kids without him.<BR/><BR/>It is very brave of you to continue on day after day. I would have had hissy fit accompanied by a lot of foot stamping by this time. I know I wouldn't be able to cope.<BR/><BR/>Are you OK to continue this way? Are you hoping for a change? I just hope whatever he's doing is important enough to merit the attention.Sarah@mommyinjapanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01461367282447656731noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9137044632467935627.post-23039894379366380262007-07-17T22:07:00.001+09:002007-07-17T22:07:00.001+09:00This comment has been removed by the author.Christellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11584308587827077772noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9137044632467935627.post-91381478778409634152007-07-17T22:07:00.000+09:002007-07-17T22:07:00.000+09:00I am amazed at how honest you are on your blog. I...I am amazed at how honest you are on your blog. I hate the Japanese work ethic. Take care of yourself!Christellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11584308587827077772noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9137044632467935627.post-26407009011921683372007-07-16T20:39:00.000+09:002007-07-16T20:39:00.000+09:00Wow, what an amazing piece of writing you've produ...Wow, what an amazing piece of writing you've produced out of such a stressful situation. I love the image of you as a lioness! All power to you and the girls in creating a satisfying family life, whether or not your husband ever comes to his senses and decides to join in. (Though the longer he works, the more scared he probably is to come through the front door...)Clairehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08403436727601422379noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9137044632467935627.post-42822028216128510102007-07-16T18:02:00.000+09:002007-07-16T18:02:00.000+09:00Found your blog via GaijinMama. Just thought I'd s...Found your blog via GaijinMama. Just thought I'd say "hi" and let you know you've got a new reader. I'm an English teacher in Shimane. Yoroshiku and all that.dmachttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15094737702689791546noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9137044632467935627.post-63953950010037099552007-07-16T12:20:00.000+09:002007-07-16T12:20:00.000+09:00((((((Laura))))))hugs. I don't know if there is a...((((((Laura))))))<BR/>hugs. I don't know if there is anything I can say to help, maybe not. Just know that I'm rooting for you!! Keep "Aum"ing and keep a good grip on your girls. <BR/>AnneMarie KumamotoAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com